What is “Self-Help”?

The Oxford Dictionary defines “self-help” as:

/ˈˌself ˈˌhelp/


1. the use of one’s own efforts and resources to achieve things without relying on others

The Online Free Dictionary says:

self-help (sĕlf′hĕlp′)
The act or an instance of helping or improving oneself without assistance from others.

Well, that is just nonsense!

None of us lives in a bubble. To help our-selves we must ask for, and accept, the advice, assistance, and resources being offered by those around us.

Think about it.

If you buy a “self-help” book, you are applying the knowledge and experience of someone else to solve problems and create results in your own life.

If you learn how to meditate, practice mindfulness, tapping, law of attraction, manifestation, or any of the many tools and techniques out there, you are helping your ‘self’ – but not by yourself!

I would like to offer a new definition, and meaning, for the term “self-help”:

self help


The act of seeking, accepting, and applying the information and resources made available to us by others, for the purpose of helping and improving one’s own self.

The “self” exists on many levels. You might seek help for your physical self, mental or emotional self, or spiritual self.

Whatever it is that you are seeking, always remember to check in with your own inner guidance and intuition. Keep an open mind, and listen to your heart.

There is no such thing as “self-help” without the assistance of others! Even if we are alone, we draw upon our memories and experiences with others. We learn from watching what other people do, the results they get, and how that fits with our own life plan.

With that I invite you to ‘help your self’ to some great resources available at the “Applying Basic Metaphysics to Your Life” page at Metaphysics-for-Life.com .

Seek, accept (with discernment!) and apply.